I recently introduced my middle schoolers to the Notice and Note Signposts from Kylene Beers and Bob Probst. When teaching the contrasts and contradiction lesson, we read “Thank You, Ma’m” by Langston Hughes, a short story about a young boy who tries to steal a pocketbook from a woman walking home from work one evening. It’s a story about making bad decisions and earning trust from unlikely people.
We read a small piece, found the signpost, and had engaging discussions. Towards the end of the short story, I read aloud the line, “I have done things, too, which I would not tell you, son—neither tell God, if he didn’t already know.”
We talked about how Mrs. Jones admitted to Roger that she had made mistakes in her past. Made decisions that maybe she wasn’t too proud of.
My students seemed to be stuck on this part because they were so surprised that the woman admitted to doing wrong to the boy - the boy she had just caught trying to steal from her.
One student asked, “Why did she tell him that? Isn’t she trying to teach a lesson about how stealing is wrong? Isn’t she sending him the wrong message by telling him that she has done bad things, too?’
I have thought about this discussion for days now. Maybe it is because recently I had a former student make a bad decision. It was a decision that caused her great embarrassment and disappointment not only in herself but also from her teammates and her family. It also kept her from achieving goals that she had set for herself.
It is a decision I am sure, if she were able to hit a rewind button, would not have played out as it did. I am sure my former student sees her bad decision as the “contrast and contradiction” to success. Maybe that is also what my students saw in the story of Roger and Mrs. Jones and wondered why she told on herself.
What would happen if we became more like Mrs. Jones and admitted our failures and bad decisions but also shared how we learned from them? What lessons could our students learn from us?
Maybe we need to let students know bad decisions and failure are not “contrasts and contradictions” to success, but instead, they become the experience.
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I think you are on to something here. It seems we are trying so doggone hard to be perfect that when we fall short, there is little room for forgiveness. What if we did approach mistakes as experience? It makes me think of our systems for grading. Making the A often overshadows any real learning. Because don't we learn best when we mess up and have to regroup, change a course, try again? This is a conversation that should continue.
ReplyDeleteI want to think about this idea more--it feels so important. My daughter and I have been talking about this idea over the weekend. Our lives need to be safe spaces to fail, and our classrooms do too...but that kind of vulnerability is so hard.
ReplyDeleteBad decisions vs success or bad decisions as learning experiences on the way to success - you have good discussions going on in your class.
ReplyDeleteWhat a good discussion to be having with your students! Deep. Life-learning stuff.
ReplyDelete"Maybe we need to let students know bad decisions and failure are not “contrasts and contradictions” to success, but instead, they become the experience" - well-said, Leigh Anne. Failures are an important part of the growth process - especially in the overcoming!
ReplyDeleteThat Mark Twain quote always makes me chuckle. I love when you write about your students.
ReplyDeleteAdmitting my failure is my number one parenting move. :)
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